Life’s adversities mysteriously turn into most unexpected hidden gifts and bring much beautiful change into our lives.
In February 2015 I returned back to London after 6 months of travelling to the sacred lands of North America and Hawaii...
When leaving for travels I moved out from my home, left all my belongings in a storage and mentally prepared myself for going fully self-employed (soon leaving my Senior Manager role at the beloved London College of Spirituality). I wanted to open myself to the new and unexplored possibilities and opportunities. I wanted to see where life would take me.
Towards the end of my American travels I received clear guidance to make London my next destination and I followed the call. I wasn’t sure why I needed to be back in London but I trusted I would find out when I am there.
While in America, I arranged a place for myself to stay in London on my return. I love being ready and prepared :) A friend of a friend had just bought a house and he was planning to rent out the rooms. I thought it was a perfect place for me. I love new beginnings and it is always fun to help build a new home together.
However, it has so happened that when I returned to London the house wasn’t at all ready for living. There were big delays with selling-buying process and the house was still in a very sad state. Empty, cold, unfurnished, needing redecoration badly.
There was no fridge, no bed for me. Just an inflatable matrass, bare walls and a cold echo in the house…
You can imagine how much of a shock this was for me! After the beauty and comfort of staying in the most homely and loving guesthouse in California near the mountains in Mt Shasta, after all my colourful adventures and mystical experiences – I found myself in a place so uninviting, empty and sad in the concrete jungle of London...
The lovely house owner warned me that the place was not ready for living, but naiive me thought I’d be fine.
After the 24hr exhausting trek from Mt Shasta to London, feeling super jet lagged and rather disorientated, I had nothing else to do but stay there for the night.
Next morning I woke up feeling totally broken, devastated and lost… I really couldn't bear staying there, but I had nowhere else to go. I felt desperately homeless.
My clouded head was struggling to come up with any solution and I decided to simply post a cry for help on facebook – sharing honestly what had happened and asking for help.
This was a very difficult thing for me to do.
Until that moment I found it very challenging to ask for help. In my head, doing so meant I was openly admitting to be weak, imperfect, and unable to sort my life out.
It meant I had to openly show my vulnerability to my friends, students and colleagues. The entire world would find out that I was in trouble and could do nothing about it.
My pride - destroyed.
Not only did I receive tonnes of replies and offers of help from people who knew me, but I also saw clearly that nobody really judged me.
It was the perfectionist in me judging me for not having all things figured out. While the real people in my life, on the contrary, were super understanding, supportive and accepting.
Some even shared with me that they were touched to see how openly I showed my vulnerability. It inspired them to also try and be more open to the idea of asking for help more often because there was nothing wrong with it, really.
Others shared they loved seeing their teacher show a weakness openly. This brought us closer together, because it turned out I was just another human being, who too could experience troubles sometimes and could be as vulnerable as everybody else.
All my life I had been doing my best to resolve any problems I encountered on my own.
I felt I had to be the strong one and the capable one.
I would feel OK asking for help from my family or close people as a last resort, because I felt more or less comfortable with being an imperfect me around them.
I was reminded that asking for help doesn’t make us a weaker person. It makes us a person who is honest and realistic about one’s abilities.
A person who understands that asking for a helping hand or a good advice can take away unnecessary struggle, save time and energy, open to new possibilities and generally make life a much lighter and fun experience. A co-creation rather than a lonely struggle.
The craziness of this London welcome back situation totally forced me to do what I would rather not do before.
And this was a total life-changer.
It was super sweet to see many of my clients and people who attended my spiritual growth classes and events reach out and offer a hand. I was totally overwhelmed by the love and support I received. This must have been the most heart-warming come back to London I had ever had.
The situation that I saw as a great misfortune and adversity turned into a real Blessing.
As I chose to stay with the people who offered help rather than looking for a permanent place to stay (since I didn’t yet have any solid plans for London) - I got to catch up with many of my old friends and I made many new wonderful friends.
The need to move around and change places every 2-6 weeks helped me stay toned and ‘on it’ all the time. I was kept away from getting into the old ways of doing things and felt stimulated to come up with new and fresh ideas. My spiritual work continued to grow and expanded into new services and creative expressions.
The need to be on the move a lot also saved me from having the ‘holiday blues’ that you normally get when coming back from amazing holidays and need to settle back into the old reality and routine.
I also got to see some amazing parts of London and surrounding areas, stay in beautiful homes, pet-sit most adorable cats & dogs whose company I’d been missing for years (!).
Each place I stayed at - held a great meaning to me.
I’d receive an important message, meet a person who would greatly help with my personal development and healing, discover something new, learn a new skill or get a chance to do something I’d been dying to do for years (like taking singing classes, for example). Each place and each person I had met added value to my life.
I couldn’t believe how blessed I was to actually get into this trouble in the first place!
This situation was a great proof for me that we are always looked after by unseen forces.
There is always help and support that would come from an unexpected source. We can totally Trust the Universe!
Any unpleasant situation is a blessing in disguise because it always leads somewhere beneficial for us.
It helps us grow and expand much quicker than normal.
It takes us out of the box.
It shows us the magic of our reality which we wouldn’t come across otherwise.
After a while, I found it super easy to adopt to new places and feel at home really quickly. Living from a suitcase didn’t bother me anymore. I actually found it fun and looked forward to ‘what’s next in store for me?’ when it was time to move again.
My only constant at that time was a key ring I crafted :) A cute red and black ladybird key ring I’d put on every new set of keys I was given. It was my anchor and it made me feel at ease with the continuous change.
The curious thing during this adventure was that in July I begun to feel strongly that it was time for me to officially move from London.
After 10 years of calling London my home I felt I had to give my things away, close all unfinished business and set myself free. How crazy it was, that it wasn’t really meant for me to settle back into London after my return from America at the beginning of the year!
All the moving around gave me the knowledge and experiences I needed and prepared me for the new upcoming change and travels from September onwards.
And how surprising it was to learn later that the little ladybird key ring I always had with me held a meaning of its own.
My first stopover country was my homeland Latvia and I happened to notice many ladybird-styled souvenirs in shops. I didn’t realise Ladybird was a symbol of Latvia! Although I did have a distant memory of chanting a cute little rhyme about a ladybird in my childhood. Oh my! My country was softly calling me home for a visit all along..
My visit to Latvia unfolded into a beautiful journey filled with much magic, healing, creativity and re-connection with my roots. And that’s a whole new story to share :)
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Any life’s adversity is a Blessing with many hidden gifts! Let in the light of hope and trust into your Heart and allow yourself relax into the unfolding of events.
Breathe. Rest. Look around you. Look beyond the seeming chaos.
What can you see beyond the human drama and fear?
What is REALLY happening within you and around you?
What can you sense birthing in this moment of instability?
Be honest. Be perceptive. Be open to your inner wisdom.
Open up to Asking for Help! Many doors and opportunities open when we learn to Ask for support when we truly need it.
Help is the most natural thing on Earth. Don’t deprive yourself from the gift of being supported. Be honest about what you need and share it with your tribe! We are here of each other :)
May your journey be blessed with Miracles and Magic in every step you take.
Much Love and Blessings of Light,